clean water transforms life — and birth.

 

I want to live in a world where life is celebrated, community is supported, and love is spread far and wide.

{side note :: the inspiration} I lived in a small village in rural Guyana where the entire community gathered their drinking and washing water from a hole in the ground. This community was generous to host myself and a group of do-gooding youth, but our presence depleted their water – that hole in the ground would not fill up as quickly as we drank its supply.

I want to live in a world where everyone has access to flowing, fresh water. If you want to live in this world too, then I have just the thing for you.

I’ve committed my birthdays to charity: water and so instead of birthday gifts, I’m asking that make a donation to charity: water anywhere from $1 to $1000. Or, if you are my generous benefactor, you can always give more.

I want to live in a world where life is celebrated, community is supported, and love is spread far and wide.

Deep thanks for helping me celebrate my life and for making life easier for an entire community across the world.

 

 

Who Can We Trust?

ANY expectant Mum realises quickly that advice from those involved in her antenatal care varies greatly. This can impact on her decisions relating to the care she takes during her pregnancy and also in the choices she makes regarding the birth of her baby.

Common scenarios include: ‘My GP has prescribed me iron tablets’; ‘The midwife told me my baby is measuring too small’; ‘My GP told me I should eat dairy products for calcium intake’; ‘They want
to induce me at forty weeks, as my scan shows my baby is big’; ‘My consultant said that because my baby was conceived by IVF, I should have a caesarean.’

Why do opinions vary so much, and how can a woman navigate through the conflicting advice, so she can make decisions confidently about her antenatal care, the birth of her baby, and beyond?

The main issue is perspective!

Modern medical care is routine and prescriptive. Time isn’t available to spend preparing the woman emotionally for her mothering journey, so the focus is on testing her to see if her body is performing as it should. The dots are not yet connected between how she feels emotionally and what her physical state is. Medical equipment has been proven to be unreliable (forty years of WHO research has shown this), yet we still rely on the data from scans and monitors despite their fallibility.

Obstetricians who work in labour wards are only called to a birth if there’s a complication. Their focus is on saving lives, not on the long-term impact on either mother or baby of procedures and treatment administered. So they see birth as dangerous business!

Trainee doctors receive one day’s study in nutrition, and obstetricians receive no instruction on the natural effects of oxytocin, other labour hormones or how to help them flow. If labour isn’t progressing quickly, then ‘hook up a drip of synthetic oxytocin’ – that’s their solution! Neither, is it taught that the position a woman births in can affect the descent of her baby. Many obstetricians don’t consider that the birthing environment can significantly alter the course a birth takes.

Standard midwifery training teaches to rely on technology, rather than instinct, to tell if everything is okay – and these days they are trained more as obstetric nurses than as traditional midwives.

For a student midwife to qualify, she is required to attend forty births. Some don’t ever see a birth centre birth (where medical equipment is not available) or a home birth as part of their training. Many end up, like doctors, being scared of birth, and particularly, of litigation.

Hospital policies dictate what can happen and when, and these are determined by insurance companies. Who do insurance companies consult regarding writing policy terms?

Medical advice does not ratify natural remedies, ways to encourage babies into Optimal Foetal Position (OFP) for birth, the role of adrenalin and oxytocin during labour, the impact of fear on baby and mother, or the positive effect that emotional support can have on all outcomes.

So, how do we support women to make informed and empowered choices around birth?

As a woman learns to trust herself and her baby, over the voices of well meaning but fear driven ‘birth professionals’, she comes into an empowered place to prepare for birth and parenting. This can be accessed through a combination of body-based, audio and visual education as cellular memory re-awakens.

Sharing with women the knowledge around how we are shaped by our early experiences in life, by media and our cultural norms, helps women to understand their fears and concerns better, and to take responsibility for changing them and the birth choices they make. ‘Change your view of the world and the world around you changes’.

Medical advice has its place, and evidence-based clinical studies too, but it’s difficult to measure in a clinical environment the positive impact had on a birth that a soft nurturing environment, and a loving team who trusts the process of birth can have, even when women are ‘high risk’.

Some simple tips that can make a huge difference for your pregnant clients include: • Looking into the birth stories of both parents in as much honest detail as possible – what is made conscious no longer runs as a subconscious program: Check out birthingfromlove. com for overcoming fear of birth.

• The more she reads up on routine procedures, both in pregnancy and birth, the more informed she is to discuss her care options with her antenatal care team.

• If you do not ask for anything different, you will be pushed through the system, and the language used by some individuals can infer that you do not actually have a choice. This is not true!

• Remind women that they know best what is right for themselves and their baby. Meditation, relaxation and yoga can help women to get in touch with what feels right for their baby.

• What is prescribed by your GP during pregnancy isn’t necessarily the best thing to take… it will be the cheapest! Look into alternatives and spend the money where you can.

• Go on a ‘negativity diet’… news, scary movies, mainstream birth documentaries, thrillers or scare mongers are not worth listening to!

• Independent midwives, doulas and home birth midwives will have the most rounded understanding of holistic pregnancy and birth – join forums online and local home birth groups where available.

• Get to know your body intimately – what makes you feel open, relaxed and comfortable. Antenatal yoga classes are a great way to do this.

• Use resources such as primalhealthresearch.com and aims.org to get a balanced view of suggested and routine procedures.

• Medical knowledge is limited – painkillers do not get rid of bad postural habits
that lead to back ache, pelvic pain and sciatica. Neither will support belts, massage or physiotherapy, if women do not pay more attention to how they sit, stand and move around.

• More than anything else don’t give your power away! Look online for positive birth stories, videos and documentaries that will help you to understand how beautiful and empowering birth can be.

• Ask your baby what she/he wants… and learn to trust what you feel. You may dream or just know what you need to do.

• Consider what you would do if there was no one around to advise you. What feels ‘good’ is a guide to follow throughout your parenting journey.

• Check out babiesknow.com, to understand better the impact of your decisions on your baby.

About the Author

Mother, yoga teacher, birthlight tutor, and founder of InJoy; Rosanna Kalliabetsos provides an insight in to the reasons why advice varies so much from midwife to GP or obstetrician; she advises on how to support your clients to make informed and empowered decisions about their pregnancies, births and their babies’ health

Adventures With My Placenta….Say, Whhat?!

“Ummm, that’s really weird…” were the first words out of my mouth when my birthing coach told me about placenta encapsulation. To be honest, I was too embarrassed to admit that my biggest fear of giving birth was the actual pain of a possible epidural needle. So, I headed feet first into my next fear: post partum depression.

Months prior, one of my closest friends fell into a downward spiral of post partum depression with a side of psychosis, just weeks after her little bundle had arrived. It was then, post partum depression became personal. Hit home. Became real.

To this day, I have never felt so helplessly out of control as a friend. I was used to being able to restore things. Give absolute advice. Ease pain with a hug. Use humor when the mood was just a bit too heavy. But my platform crumbled beneath us both. I couldn’t fix the situation. My heart broke for my friend in the process. What if this happens to me? What if THIS happens to ME?

I let my birthing coach tell me more about placenta encapsulation. I could tell by the way her eyes lit up and her smile sparkled, that this was something special. She had me intrigued. She then told me that she had done it! Twice! Wow. This woman, has ingested…two….placenta’s in her lifetime.

I am not sure what my facial expression looked like while she was telling me about her personal, placenta adventure… but she reassured me that you can take your placenta in pill form rather than the raw, fresh-out- of- the- womb, form. Well, then. That sounded a bit more doable. I think.

I was shocked to hear that placenta encapsulation had many more postpartum benefits, other than balancing one’s hormones (although that seemed enough for me!). Increase of milk production! Reduce post-partum bleeding! Replenish depleted iron levels! Assist in one’s uterus to return to prenatal state! And, increase energy levels!! Say, whhhat?! AND, it is completely safe for both mama and baby with minimal side effects, if any. Why had I never heard about this before?

I went home in a giddy and curious state. “I am going to eat my placenta!!!” I yelled, as I skipped down the street rubbing my 8 month-old-pregnant belly. Okay, maybe not. But that’s what I felt like doing. I felt empowered. I felt in control. I felt prepared.

Fast forward to my actual due date. January 10th, 2012. Labour came on with a vengence and our baby was coming extremely quickly. And to make things even more memorable, mother nature decided to throw in a snowstorm (very comical, I know). In my birth notes, I had at the top, in bold, highlighted letters, *WANT TO KEEP PLACENTA. Unfortunately, due to the swiftness of my labour and a dramatic ambulance ride, my birthnotes were tucked safely away on my bedside table, at home. In between contractions I could be heard panting, “Don’t forget… I want my placenta!!” And then onto the next contraction I would go. It was evident to everyone in that delivery room, that I was going home with my baby’s placenta.

Our precious, baby boy N arrived with bells on, and life changed. We were a healthy, happy, family. Life felt like it had officially begun. The sleepless nights begun. The challenges of breast feeding begun. Counting and changing poopy diapers had begun. Parenthood had begun.

About a week after I had given birth, a lovely lady from Pure Birth Services came to our home and dropped off all of my placenta goodies!! Not only was there a jar of placenta pills (my placenta made about 150 pills), but she also dropped off placenta broth (which, my hubby and I discussed briefly, both made a funny face, and disposed of it immediately!) and a placenta tincture as well.

I was relieved when my placenta pills were finally in my hands, but I have to admit, I was a bit apprehensive. What if they made me feel strange? What if I had some outlandish reaction (major hypochodirac, right here!)? What if I didn’t notice anything beneficial come from them? My mother-in-law saved the day and said calmly, “You are exhausted, take the pills.” Out came the pills and a glass a water… and my placenta adventure began.

I took my placenta pills for 3 weeks and then would pop a couple of pills whenever I found myself feeling utterly exhausted. I can honestly say, my first month of being a first time mama was wonderful. And I do believe my placenta pills played an immense part in this positive experience.  Now don’t get me wrong, I was tired. I was overwhelmed. I was anxious. But, all of these new feelings felt natural and not out of control. My hormones seemed stable. I felt like I had energy to get through the day. My milk was flowing. My body was healing. And I felt…healthy. Most moms can agree that feeling all of these things right after giving birth to a baby, is priceless.  It’s as simple as that. I was amazed and grateful for this organ that I had never given much thought to before. Not only did my baby’s placenta give my baby life for 9 months, but also gave me some pretty incredible health benefits post partum (and natural at best!).

My first year being a brand new mom has flown by like no other. I find myself talking with other inspiring mama’s about every parenthood topic under the sun. I often bring up my personal experience regarding placenta encapsulation, and get a wide range of reactions. Some captivated, others repulsed, and the rest are mystified. My goal isn’t to make every mom do placenta encapsulation. My goal is to inform and educate about how incredible our bodies really are. At the end of the day, only I can decide what is best for me, my body and my baby. But, for me… placenta encapsulation made things a wee bit easier!

In case you were wondering…

Where are my remainder placenta pills now? They are stuck in my freezer door waiting for the day my body decides to go into menopause, and needs a little boost (And people say I am not a planner, ha!)

Who was my birthing coach who introduced me to Placenta Encapsulation? She is the lovely, Gemma Stone who is a busy mom of two and an incredible Psychologist, Coach, Speaker and Guide, in Calgary, Alberta.  Gemmastone.org

How is my friend who had PPD and essentially inspired me to be pro-active and do placenta encapsulation? She is wonderfully healthy and is an inspiring mama to her handsome, growing boy (who is such a ham, might I add!

And finally, where am I at with my biggest fear of getting an epidural needle? Conquered that with having a natural labor/delivery and realizing the pain I felt was probably much more than the pain of a tiny needle. Ahh- life lessons.

Pure Birth Services (Calgary, Alberta)purebirth.ca

Written by: Kerri

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

{interview} Elena Tonetti

elena_bio_photoI’m thrilled to share with you an interview with the wise and conscious Elena Tonetti.

Listen to the interview here.

Elena’s journey has led her to discover that we can heal ourselves and our collective past, as a tribe of humans on the face of the Earth, so the future generations will be able to thrive as a species.

If you’re interested in taking a workshops or training with Elena, now is the time to do it. She has only two training programs left before she takes a leave to complete her four books.

Elena’s  DVDs and writings are focused on the conscious creation of a new humanity – re-designing, re-navigating, clearing the pathways from the debris of the past trauma and out-dated behavioral patterns, so our true fundamental core experience of living in the body could be based on love, compassion and common sense.

baby_hand_standElena has discovered whether we are birthing babies, or any of our dream projects, including our own upgraded versions of ourselves, we must first create new reference points in our own nervous system in order for us to know what it really feels like – to love, to feel safe, be supported in this world, to consciously sustain peaceful mindset in the midst of chaos and intensity,
how to create from the place of Power that does not need to prove itself, because the only true Power there is – is Love.


{book review} Sacred Pregnancy

The relevance of this book is staggering. We find ourselves in a time where the culture of pregnancy and childbirth is at a crossroads. This book is a supportive keystone that will empower women to choose the path that is grounded in love. The author of Sacred Pregnancy, Anni Daulter, is loyal to the path that allows women to be empowered by the magnificent experience that is pregnancy and birth.

Pregnancy and birth, more than any other experience, has the potential to transform the world. It is time that we support women in experiencing birth as a peaceful, positive, and powerful event.

The book is a beautiful guidebook that will support women in taking control of their pregnancy and birth experiences—not the rigid, inflexible control that springs from fear, but the wise, empowered control that’s rooted in love. With that control, pregnancy and birth becomes an act of joy, of self-discovery, and of profound self-expression.

I adore the stories that are scattered throughout this book, I have discovered that it is in sharing our stories that we can really begin to change the world of pregnancy and birth in a meaningful way.

This book is a toolbox of practical and helpful tools and it is a reservoir of peace and inspiration.

 

I am honoured to be one of the facilitators for Sacred Pregnancy’s Education Retreat Series.

If you are involved in the birthing community as a doula, a birth educator, a midwife, or just a fellow lover-of-birth Sacred Pregnancy is a powerful movement to get involved with.

Join us November 2-5, 2012 at Ojai Foundation to learn how to teach an eight week pregnancy course & a four week birthing course based on the Sacred Pregnancy philosophy.

This retreat education series gives you the knowledge & tools to start your own Sacred Pregnancy business. We’re going to engage in a collective of activities that will deepen your own practice & allow you to network with top birthing professionals.

You’ll head home with a heart full of inspiration, a mind full of wisdom, & your hands full of the amazing ‘Sacred Pregnancy Kit’  to get you started.

Sounds pretty great, doesn’t it? Download this for more details :: Sacred Pregnancy Retreat Workshop Information

If you know this is for you, download the application here :: Sacred Pregnancy Retreat Application

Questions? Email info@sacredpregnancy.com for more details.

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